Step 1
Breathe, HIV is treatable
Modern treatment works. People on ART (antiretroviral therapy) live normal lifespans, and when taken consistently, treatment gets viral load to undetectable, meaning you cannot transmit HIV sexually. This is called U=U: Undetectable = Untransmittable. The most important first step is getting connected to a doctor who knows HIV, which this path covers. You do not need to have everything figured out today.
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